What’s next?

For years, we’ve been conditioned to be not just good or great, but rather the best. In a hyper-connected society, this has become more and more of a burden, where actually being “Number One” TM has become mostly impossible (unless you’re looking at it from a ST:TNG angle), and more importantly – unhelpful on a personal level.

Yes, you may end up reaching overnight success (after spending 10-20 years of hard work), and still be far away from being “richest”, or “most prolific”. Just look at Jeff Bezos’ sparring with Elon Musk over Space, to figure out having it all does not mean you have anything really, or the endless counts of scientists/mathematicians/football players who were/are amazing and still never mentioned in the top 10.

With that in mind, I have been for a long time contemplating on what my next endeavour may look like, in order to avoid creating yet another organization which forces everyone, from intern to CEO, to prioritize work above all else. Personally, I want to create a company where saying you care more about your family than work is the norm.

With some inspiration from David Heinemeier Hansson, here are some thoughts about how that may be achieved, for me personally:

  1. Specialize.
    Do not attempt to build the biggest, most feature-complete technology or product ever.
    You can build great products, serve millions of customers, be highly profitable, and still remain a small/medium player; and that’s OK.

    Note that this does not mean no investment in technology, and it’s even possible to develop groundbreaking infrastructure along the way; it’s just not the main product to be sold, at least initially.
  2. Targeted growth.
    Only aim for products that can be achieved with something similar to your team’s current size. Do not make hyper-growth a requirement for success.

    Over time, team size will grow, and you can make more wonderous magic happen; BUT – it needs to happen over time, not as a prerequisite for success. Otherwise, you may require heavy funding, and relax hiring controls.
  3. Limit external funding.
    To the extent possible, avoid external cash injections.
    Investors typically expect large returns, and often become “the bosses” – and rightly so; they own your business. This can easily lead to a more cut-throat corporate culture.

    If you want to maintain your independence to build something unique over time, realize VC cash injections are typically not the way to go.
  4. Partnership.
    Find a partner, hopefully two, with whom you are able constructively analyze situations and discuss opposing viewpoints.
  5. Be approachable.
    Never ever be in a situation where partners, employees or customers feel approaching you with relevant data is not a good idea, regardless of how criticizing it is of you or your current efforts.
  6. Remain flexible.
    The above are guidelines, not rules.
    Evaluate and adjust guidelines and the plan over time.


More thoughts, but that’s all for today.
Perhaps with some luck I can end up winning by playing for a draw.

“Companions the creator seeks, not corpses, not herds and believers. Fellow creators the creator seeks — those who write new values on new tablets. Companions the creator seeks, and fellow harvesters; for everything about him is ripe for the harvest.”

– Friedrich Nietzsche, “Thus Spoke Zarathustra”

Don’t Panic

I used to be the King… The King of all Broadway.

– Max Bialystock, “The Producers”

I miss working.
After spending 20 months at home, taking care of my 3 young girls, I miss working with people; creating; and leading.
I always loved the complexity and high stakes – aka the action – and that part of my life is not complete.

2 years back, I really was “The King” – leading the development of a complex product, a large team, with people coming to me for advice, guidance and directions many times a day.

Shortly after I left Cisco, the market became so hot that I would regularly hear about people much less senior, and possibly less capable, making so much money through IPO-s, mergers, and even just regular pay that it create a huge FOMO pressure.

Can I really afford myself a new car? it would’ve been trivial had I been working.

Am I missing out on the crazy paydays in the market? yes, and it’s hard for me to be agnostic to this.

And the biggest one: will anyone want to hire me again when I’ve been unemployed (by choice) for 2-5 years? and if so, will it be for the leadership roles I enjoy so much?

During this period, I interviewed for senior roles at several companies, but declined all offers – anything from developer to VP R&D. Some of them were super-interesting proposal that I would’ve taken on the spot a few years ago.

When the time to choose came, I always felt the right balance for me is to stay with my girls for a while more; to know I can always pick them up after kindergarten, and that if they want to stay at home with daddy today (or the entire week…) that’s OK.

Some of the gaps in doing and creating were filled by volunteering activity, such as getting an ISP to deploy fiber optics at my parents village – projects allowing me to use my skillset, handle negotiations etc, but without requiring 24/7 involvement.

New opportunities still give me a rush, but as I look at each of them, I usually come back to the same conclusion: I do not know if it will be today, tomorrow or in the far future, but it’ll probably be my own company.
That’s a better match for where I am today.

I am happy I chose to stay at home with my girls; it was a good decision, and it brings joy to my heart.
I miss working, and the crazy-high pay makes the feeling of missing out much bigger.
Both of these feelings are there every day, and that’s OK.

Here’s my point: learn to understand and contain complex scenarios.
Strive to figure out what’s the right balance for you, and to build the emotional stamina to enjoy this balance in the face of never-ending new opportunities.

Cheers.